In honor of World Breastfeeding Week, which was August 1-7, 2013, I want to share Iris’ breastfeeding journey, because, in spite of many challenges, she has been dedicated to ensuring that her daughter, Baby Z, is provided the best nutrition.
Baby Z was born 10 weeks premature, and had to stay in a neonatal intensive care unit for 37 days. I remember Iris’ stress the day she went into labor as she worried that her milk supply would not come in.
Baby Z in the NICU
Iris knew that she wanted to breastfeed her baby long before she discovered that she was pregnant. She was breastfed as a child, and her maternal and paternal aunts also breastfed their children. She recalls, “I grew up watching my little cousins being comforted and fed in my aunts’ laps, both in the home and out at public functions.”
With the unexpected early birth of Baby Z, Iris had to now figure out how to feed her baby. Due to Baby Z’s delicate medical condition, she would most benefit from receiving colostrum, which is the first milk a mother makes and provides antibodies to protect the baby from diseases. Because newborn babies have immature digestive systems, mother’s milk is best for them, as many children face difficulties digesting cows’ milk. When a child is born prematurely, their digestive system is further compromised, and the need for mother’s milk is heightened. For this reason, I quickly volunteered to donate milk if Iris’ supply did not come in. However, since my daughter was well over a year old at the time, I no longer produced colostrum. Luckily, Iris’ colostrum came in just in time to feed Baby Z.
Because Baby Z “had great difficulty latching, I continued to pump rather than feed from the breast directly,” remembers Iris. Like Iris, some women experience difficulties with newborns latching on for various reasons. In Baby Z’s case her mouth was too small. A lactation consultant can usually help with non-medical latch difficulties. Iris was able to help Baby Z latch twice by applying a nipple shield, but she has to pump breast milk in order to feed Baby Z.
“Not being able to feed a child directly is a huge blow to a mother. It’s not something you expect when dreaming of having a baby. Exclusively pumping is extremely tiresome as you have to wake up every 3 hours to feed your child and sit up pumping for another 45 minutes to make enough for the next feeding.”
Iris has experienced many challenges to providing her daughter breast milk. She has to pump milk multiple times a day and laments, “While breastfeeding in public is becoming more widespread and accepted, I still have to take my plastic funnels and machine to a nearby bathroom or closet.”
Recently, after exclusively pumping for two months, Iris experienced a drop in her milk supply. She tried to supplement with baby formula, but Baby Z was unable to properly digest it. Thus, Iris opted to join the growing number of women who are using donor milk.
“My milk supply began to dwindle around the time my daughter was going through a growth spurt. Unable to keep up with her appetite, I chose to supplement her feedings with formula. After a few days I noticed that she was extremely irritable, gassy, and miserable. With a google search, I discovered quite a few groups online where mothers could find breast milk donors. I loved the idea of relying strictly on breast milk, so this immediately became my number one option. Soon after posting a short description of my situation and location, I was bombarded with messages from women who wanted to help.
“The love was overwhelming. I did not have any fears because it is my belief that it takes an incredibly selfless and wonderful human being to offer their milk to a stranger. So far, I have used donor milk from two mothers and a co-worker has offered hers after I run out of my current stash. My daughter does not seem to notice the difference between my milk and the donors and I am glad she is back to her usual cheery self.”
With the security of having donor milk during supply drops and being able to provide Baby Z with her own milk, Iris is free to enjoy the “the best cleavage I have ever had!” (Her words, not mine!)
Iris and a flourishing Baby Z
Baby Z is thriving and has more than doubled her weight since birth. She is an active little girl who enjoys cuddling with her Mom and sleeping on her Daddy’s chest.
I share Iris’ story to let women know that there can be many barriers to breastfeeding your baby, but there are also many solutions. For mothers who want to feed their babies human milk and cannot do so, there is the option of receiving milk donations as well as having a wet nurse.
Resources on Breastfeeding:
http://worldbreastfeedingweek.org/
Groups for Milk Donation: